For Ohioans who are considering dissolving a marriage, one option is dissolution. This type of solution can be effective when both spouses are able to agree on terms such as property division, child custody and child support. Sorting out the foreseeable future apart is often emotionally charged, although there are ways to settle such issues to benefit and satisfy both spouses.

But trying to figure out how much spousal support should be paid or when the children will be with which parent can be complicated. What can each spouse do when it seems like no agreement can be reached?

Difficulties surface when exiting spouses take immovable positions rather than negotiate for dual, positive outcomes. Especially when the issue involves children, it is best to reach terms that work for both parties in the long run and are in the best interests of the kids.

This often requires separating individual and mutual goals from desires. For example, if alimony is sought by one spouse while the other objects, a middle ground should include factual evidence that proves why that spouse needs support.

For the couple trying to come up with a workable dissolution plan, goals are bigger priorities than details. Divorcing partners who have the same goal in mind - what's best for the children, if involved - will focus less on the particulars and more readily agree to a suitable solution.

When soon-to-be exes say "I want" instead of "I need" and push for unreasonable, inflexible requests, it becomes harder to get through the necessary process of a binding agreement. Discussing options and alternatives is necessary to ensure both spouses walk into the future equally satisfied. Sometimes it helps to have someone involved who understands the entire dissolution process and can help guide the couple to reach the best solution.

Source: Huffington Post online, "Negotiating Your Divorce Settlement," Diana Mercer, 13 April 2011